Dara-Lyn Weiss opened up in Vogue‘s April issue on how she put her 7 year old daughter on a strict diet. Though her intentions were noble, the mom went into extremes with her daughter’s diet perhaps emotionally scarring the girl for life.
A year ago, her daughter was 93 lbs and 4’4″ inches tall which makes her overweight and at risk for high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and type two diabetes. At the time, Weiss said her family and friends were supportive of her decision to put her daughter on a diet. However, she openly admits that “no one seems to approve of my methods.”
In the article, she writes:
“I once reproachfully deprived Bea of her dinner after learning that her observation of French Heritage Day at school involved nearly 800 calories of Brie, filet mignon, baguette, and chocolate. I stopped letting her enjoy Pizza Fridays when she admitted to adding a corn salad as a side dish one week. I dressed down a Starbucks barista when he professed ignorance of the nutrition content of the kids’ hot chocolate whose calories are listed as “120-210″ on the menu board: Well, which is it? When he couldn’t provide an answer, I dramatically grabbed the drink out of my daughter’s hands, poured it into the garbage, and stormed out.”
“I cringe when I recall the many times I had it out with Bea over a snack given to her by a friend’s parent or caregiver … rather than direct my irritation at the grown-up, I often derided Bea for not refusing the inappropriate snack. And there have been many awkward moments at parties, when Bea has wanted to eat, say, both cookies and cake, and I’ve engaged in a heated public discussion about why she can’t.”
She goes on to say that she would berate her daughter in front of people whenever they had an argument about what snacks she can or cannot eat.
Readers of the article can tell that there is something not quite right about Weiss’ character. She has had her own eating problems when she was younger. She took laxatives and asked her doctor to give her appetite suppressants to control her own weight. She admits that she hated her body and has tried to change it. And it seems she’s transferring her own anger towards her own body onto her daughter’s weight.
After a year of dieting, her daughter is now sixteen pounds lighter. But is she happy? Perhaps traumatized?
“Only time will tell whether my early intervention saved her from a life of preoccupation with her weight, or drove her to it,” Weiss said.